Silence gives you the pleasure of wandering in the minds of others
Ernest Hemingway said: “It takes two years for a person to learn to speak and fifty years to learn to be silent.” Real value or real meaning?
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And the answer is definitely no. I learned with time that silence, especially in sessions of more than two people, is much better than talking, because it gives me an opportunity to observe and benefit from everything that is said, and to better understand the thinking of others and what is in their heads, and thus my interaction with them will become effective and useful in a way. Greater, and this is achieved by developing the listening skill, and the listening skill can be developed in several ways, including paying attention to what the opposite person is saying, and preventing myself from making judgments and getting busy preparing the response. Instead, I try to analyze and understand the speech,
But does silence always mean that we understand what is being said?
- Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq, may God be pleased with him, took the tip of his tongue and said: (This is the one who brought me the resources) Silence.
- On the authority of Ali, may God be pleased with him, he said: (In the abundance of silence there is fear).
- And (on the authority of Abu al-Darda’, may God be pleased with him, he said: Learn to be silent as you know speech, for silence is a great dream. Arp)
- - (On the authority of Anas bin Malik, may God be pleased with him, who said: Four things are not affected except by wonder: silence which is the beginning of worship, humility, remembrance of God, and the absence of anything).
- - (Ali bin Abi Talib, may God be pleased with him, said: The best worship is silence and waiting for relief).
- - (On the authority of Wahib bin Al-Ward, may God have mercy on him, who said: It was said: Wisdom is ten parts: nine of them are in silence, and the tenth is in isolation from people).
- And (he said: Abu Omar the blind: I heard the winds of Al-Qaisi say: Utbah said to me: O winds, if my soul calls me every time I speak, then I am miserable, he is the beholder.
- And they said: (The tongue has seven wounds).
- Al-Hasan, may God have mercy on him, said: Dictating good is better than dictating silence, and silence is better than dictating evil.
- Abdullah bin Abi Zakaria said: I dealt with silence for twelve years, and I did not reach what I wished for, and I was afraid of that, so I spoke.
Silence is not necessarily evidence of knowledge and understanding, but as we said, it helps us to develop a better understanding of the people around us, and silence becomes more important when talking about things that you do not understand, as it is said: If everyone talks about what they understand only, the silence will reach an unbearable limit ! And so silence was considered a virtue, because it gives us the advantage to increase our knowledge, and reduce the possibility of uttering foolishness. Tell me, do you speak more than you listen? If a person is naturally talkative, how can he develop the skill of listening?